FOR BETTER OR FOR WORST!
Before any trust can rebuild you must address how and or why it was broken in the first place. This is the time for brutal honesty. A complete confessional of how the trust was broken should only be done when you are both ready to hear it. Anyway there will be a massive amount of stress on relationship once the trust has been broken by lies or breaking promises.
Being lied to by someone you love and felt you could trust is very painful and frustrating. You love your partner, so you find yourself forgiving his/her lies the first time, perhaps the second and third time as well, before you realized you are just involved with a liar. However, because you feel strongly for this person, it is not easy for you to break away, even though you know that is probably what is best for you. You hang on, with hope that things will change and he will not lie to you anymore. You justify staying with him by telling yourself that he is a good person and deep down you know he loves you and that your relationship is wonderful and perfect except when he lies.
THEY'RE STILL TOGETHER FOR A COUPLE OF DECADES (she got secret but not lies, or ain't it?) BUANG JUD KO NO?
What you need to ask yourself when this happens is: Do you consider a wonderful relationship in which your partner lies to you? Is being lied to by a liar your idea of love and respect? When you are emotionally involved with someone, it is not always easy to ask and answer these logical questions. You often will make excuses for a liar, just to make yourself feel better about staying with someone who does not truly respect you. When your partner lies to you, it is because he does not respect you and is not as committed to the relationship as you would like to believe. Of course, there are different kinds of lies- little ones and big ones, but a lie is still a lie, no matter the size or reason for the lie. Look at it like this: if your partner can lie so easily over little things that are unnecessary to lie about, then you can be pretty sure that he/she will lie to you about bigger things that will really matter and damage the relationship.
I guess everyone makes mistake. Just learn how to fix it, also how u going to face the problem. Does he meant to do it or not?! I just consider...
Forgive is good ideal, for both side! Get back or not just another question.
THIS WAS THE 3rd TIMES AROUND FOR BONDING THEIR LIVES ETERNITY (lies lay beyond)
FORGIVE, FORGIVE & FORGET as long as there is still love.... as long as there is the tiniest bit of feeling left. There is enough to rebuild from the ground up, and to form a solid relationship with each other. The biggest portion of love is deep within the heart and will take a very long time to surface to let go.
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Sunday, March 23, 2008
FOR BETTER OR FOR WORST!